Over the years, there are some cogent experiences on marriage and fatherhood I have been able to gather, that I believe would definitely be resourceful to many. These I believe are some of the experiences and tips everyone as young husband and father should be prepared for.
Please note that these tips are not in any particular order.
1. Everyone has a role to play in uplifting the other in a home. Even babies.
2. There will be challenges. You can’t wish them away. Best be prepared to face them.
3. Your love for each other as husband and wife must be rich enough to circulate every family member and sustain your home.
4. Husbands must be able to properly listen to their wives.
5. There will be transfer of attitudes among family members. It also depends on who has the greater influence in the family.
6. Pressure demands that you first of all be at ease. And if p If any of the partners aren’t psychologically mature to handle pressure, they aren’t ready for marriage
7. The husband will be tempted to become violent on some occasions on the wife and children. But then, he must keep his emotions in check. His wife also would need to help. This is vice verse.
8. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But then, everyone can identify what is beautiful and what is not. Beauty plays a lot of beautiful roles in the family. The couple must not be both ugly. Beautiful kids lights up the heart of the parents.
9. Someone will be needed to regularly be in front when roaches, rodents, wall geckos, and all other militating spirits surface.
10. Parents need lots of patience to stay connected to their children.
11. Food is first. Ensure you attend to the need for food first from your income.
12. When husbands and wives are jointly involved in uplifting the home, they both won’t wear-out quickly.
13. Couples should give room for adjustments as the need arises in the home. There shouldn’t be anything like, “This is me, I can’t change.” Both partners should be flexible.
14. You may have read a thousand relationship books, but you will still need to regularly read your partner.
15. Honesty should never be compromised. This is a very strong pillar your home will need to stand.
16. There will be scuffle between your partner and someone else. You must hide your fears and stand for them.
17. Your family should always be first in all your decisions. This should be non-negotiable.
18. Your kids will make lots of mistakes, including breaking eggs and plates. Blame yourself for not keeping close eye. Besides, they would need to make enough less-risky mistakes as possible under your guidance.
19. If you are away from your partner for several hours, and they didn’t bother reaching out to you. You are probably not doing well in your marriage.
20. Pleasant surprises should be a regular habit. This is one of the lifewires of your bond with your family.
21. Your children need you around them. They need you physically with them. This cannot be overemphasized.
22. Notice your wife’s new hair. Her new shoes or dress. She needs you to notice it yourself and appreciate it too. In essence, be observant.
23. Women talks. You are your wife’s best gossip partner. She wants to talk things that doesn’t even concern you with you. You need to find a way to hear and respond to her. This is not easy many times as a husband, but you will definitely find a way around it if you try.
